When You Love a Girl Who Loves the Ocean

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, never tell her where to go, rather, let her take you where she goes.

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When you love a girl who loves the ocean, you may never dream of catching her.

A girl who loves the ocean wishes not to stay docked at her port, but to let the winds guide her sail as she explores into the unknown.

A girl who loves the ocean will never let someone be her dock, but someone to be her second Captain; her right hand in command.

A girl who loves the ocean will never think first of the dangers of the unknown, or let the thoughts of unfamiliarity scare her away from diving into something she knows nothing of.

A girl who loves the ocean is happily curious, because she knows too much caution can make her unhappy. This girl, who loves the ocean, lets her toes dip where she feels it’s needed but lets her body drift wherever the waves will take her.

A girl who loves the ocean will stare deep into your soul. Like fresh rain on a dry spell, she’ll flow through your cracks inch by inch until your entire being is filled with her and you both quench for air as much as you soak in her hydrated healing.

If you ever want to be with a girl who loves the ocean, learn to watch, and listen, as much as you chase her away from the shore.

Be the beach she returns to and crashes on, be the grains of sand that melt into the ground when the waves return from the sea, be her light and day when she feels it’s time to step back or feels its time to move forward. Dance with her in synchrony when there’s a storm, a calm sunny day, pouring rain, or simply a day to smile for.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, you must love her in her entirety. Like an iceberg, you only see a small percentage on the surface but must dive deep with deliberation beneath her to uncover the kingdom left unspoken where 90% of her unfolds.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, remember to breath in her fresh scent that may tangle the ends of your hair and make you look beyond what you can see. When you love a girl who loves the ocean, treat her well, as she will be wild with nature yet soft as a ripple in a still pond.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, never tell her where to go, rather, let her take you where she goes.

5 Ways to Cherish Your Loved Ones

In light of stressful events and chaotic moments, the beauty of it is that we come to appreciate those we love and focus more of our energy on moments that matter.

Yesterday was a bit of a whirlwind. A lot of sad news and chaos, only to amount in a hectic flight plan and phone calls to our loved ones.

Which got me thinking…

How do we cherish our moments with our loved ones?

How do we consciously make an effort each day to show the ones we care about how much we appreciate and love them?

Truthfully, I’m guilty of not doing this enough. Honestly I think we all are.

In light of stressful events and chaotic moments, the beauty of it is that we come to appreciate those we love and focus more of our energy on moments that matter.

Here are five ways you can cherish your loved ones:

1. Call Them

Pick up your phone and dial the number of someone you’ve been meaning to call but haven’t made the time to.

It’s not everyday we interact with those we love the most. Thankfully for social media, we get a small glimpse into the lives of people who have grown apart through physical distance. However a “like” or a “comment” on their most recent photo or post doesn’t cut it.

Take the time to sit down and have a genuine conversation with someone over the phone. Carve out a time of day when you know you’ll be free to dial their number and ask how they’ve been, what they’ve been up to, and let them know how much you appreciate them. It can either take you 10 minutes or 3 hours. Either way, catching up through a call can make an entire difference to someone you’ve been thinking about.

2. Take Them to Lunch

If you have more time to spare than 10 minutes, think about taking someone out to lunch. A lunch break can be extremely intimate and very helpful when missing time or space of another person. At lunch, you have the opportunity to engage presently with someone through sound of voice, eye contact, physical touch, and even taste from your meal! Lunch isn’t meant to be a long affair, although it can be if you prefer, but a quick moment out of your day to catch up with someone and show them how much you appreciate them.

3. Write Them a Letter

Email and digital communication is wonderful these days, but there’s nothing that touches the heart more than a hand written letter. Instead of sending them a long written email or text message, try pulling out the old fashion pen and paper and start writing your thoughts down. When sending or handing the letter to that person, it will be beyond evident how much you care to take the time and do such an act for them. The beauty of a letter is that it’s not only the thoughts written down that will count, but also the physical act itself.

4. Gratitude Bomb Them

Have you been thinking about someone lately and wish you could tell them how much you cared but don’t know how? Try dropping a big ol’ gratitude bomb on their heads. This can be done in any form of communication you’d like, but the overall concept involves expressing all of your most sincere and grateful thoughts about someone and letting them know all at once. BOOM! You just dropped a bomb of major gratitude on them. To do this, compose a long and thoughtful message about why you care about them and why they’re an awesome human being. In it’s entirety, randomly send the message to them. Bam, you’ve just made someone’s day. Super easy, right?

5. Give Them a Hug

Hugs are not something I feel are not appreciated enough. In a hug, you can express to anyone how much you love and appreciate them. Yet, nowadays we see hugs as an act of “hello” and “goodbye”. Give that someone you’ve been meaning to tell how much you appreciate them the best freakin’ hug they’ve ever had.

When you hug someone, don’t just wrap your arms around them and do an awkward chest bump approach. Pull them in with sincerity and squeeze them with genuine care and keep a hold of them until you feel you’ve made your message very clear: that you love and appreciate them THAT MUCH.

When I hug others, I hope that they feel that I’ve enjoyed my time with them and that I appreciate them spending their time with me as well. Make sure that the next time you get to hug somebody you cherish, you leave them wishing they could spend the entire day receiving hugs from you.

I hope this charged a spark in you to get up and make an effort to express your love and appreciation to that special someone who you’ve been meaning to catch up with.

Love J.J.

LOVE is Always the Answer

If there’s ever a time in your life which you feel stuck, down, confused, disoriented, or at a lost for words – think about “love” and how you can respond to your situation in that one simple act.

Like most people, I often face many questions in life which I feel I cannot answer.

What college should I go?

What restaurant should I eat?

How should I respond to this person?

Why is this happening to me?

Questions that leave us speechless and incomprehensible can sometimes be the greatest gifts we receive – it’s through these questions which we truly find ourselves through one simple word: “LOVE”.

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If you’re ever faced with a situation where you simply cannot find the answer, always remember that the answer is “LOVE”.

What college do I go to? The one which I genuinely love the most.

What restaurant should I eat? The one whose food I love the most.

How should I respond to this person? With love and compassion as how I would like to be treated.

Why is this happening to me? Although I cannot control certain things in life, I will respond to the world with love and focus my attention on the positive and good things that come towards me.

The answer is simple my friends, LOVE.

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If there’s ever a time in your life which you feel stuck, down, confused, disoriented, or at a lost for words – think about “love” and how you can respond to your situation in that one simple act.

Love J.J.

[Photos taken at Asakusa Sensoji Temple in Tokyo, Japan.]

Finding Silence in a Noisy World

Sometimes, noise is good. Sometimes noise is productive. Sometimes noise is healing, like the heartbeat of your mother who you haven’t seen for years. But sometimes, noise is the opposite of what we need. Sometimes, we start to search for silence.

A lot of people search for what makes them feel alive. What place or person or activity that makes them scream with joy, mad with happiness, from the inside out.

We live in a very noisy environment. This world is filled with so many distractions, opportunities, dreams, and people that flood the canals of our ears flowing straight into our minds. Our thoughts are polluted with as many things as we can handle, as many topics as we can speak.

Sometimes, noise is good. Sometimes noise is productive. Sometimes noise is healing, like the heartbeat of your mother who you haven’t seen for years.

Sometimes, noise can be exactly what we need. Words that inspire us. People that encourage us. The songs of a lyric that speaks to our souls.

But sometimes, noise is the opposite of what we need. Sometimes, we start to search for silence.

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I’ve found in a world with so much noise, so much beauty, I tend to lean towards wanting to wind down from all the liveliness and expressions that surround me.

Sometimes, in my happiest moments, is when I feel completely silent, and the world is still.

I search for those moments when the world is silent. I search for that moment when everything around me is still and I can concentrate only on my heartbeat.

I search for that one thing in life that brings me joy in it’s most simplest form.

Whether it’s movement, fulfilling the senses, experiencing something new, or witnessing an old face, I crave those moments.

There’s a specific time warp that happens when I find that moment of silence. It’s like those films where I stand completely at still and all I see is that one thing or person, and everything else around us just speeds past at lightning pace.

Or that scene when everyone else is frozen, and the slow motion of things makes the moment seem unreal, unfathomable. And even the slightest movement like the batter of an eyelash is enough to make my heart beat rapidly out of my chest.

It’s these moments, where I forget everything else, that make me realize that there’s more to life than living at it’s loudest or expressing all there is to feel.

Sometimes, when you feel nothing, when you think nothing, you find yourself in absolute peace. Calmness. Still. And silent. The world is no longer a mess, but a garden of gratitude.

It’s these moments that I search for silence in life, that one thing that makes the world completely quiet and still.

Love J.J.

55+ Happiness Quotes to Make Your Life Better

Be happy and whole in your hearts and remember to be kind to one another.

 

  1. “Science of happiness lies in our understanding. The secrets of happiness lie in our capacity to expand our heart.” – Amit Ray
  2. “Whoever is happy will make others happy.” – Anne Frank
  3. “The moments of happiness we enjoy take us by surprise. It is not that we seize them, but that they seize us.” – Ashley Montagu
  4. “Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years.” – Ausonius
  5. “Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.” – Benjamin Disraeli
  6. “If you have not taken the time to define what happiness means to you, what have your spent your whole life pursuing?” – Bo Bennett
  7. “When we recall the past, we usually find that it is the simplest things – not the great occasions – that in retrospect give off the greatest glow of happiness.” – Bob Hope
  8. “I learned from a very young age that if I pursued the things that truly excited me, that they would reward in more important ways, like happiness.” – Brandon Boyd
  9. “Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.” – Brian L. Weiss
  10. “Curiosity is one of the great secrets of happiness.” – Bryant H. McGill
  11. “Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.” – Buddha
  12. “Learn to let go. That is the key to happiness.” – Buddha
  13. “Be happy. It’s one way of being wise.” – Colette
  14. “Genuine happiness can only be achieved when we transform our way of life from the unthinking pursuit of pleasure to one committed to enriching our inner lives, when we focus on ‘being more’ rather than simply having more.” – Daisaku Ikeda
  15. “Even if things don’t unfold the way you expected, don’t be disheartened or give up. One who continues to advance will win in the end.” – Daisaku Ikeda
  16. “I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives.” – Dalai Lama
  17. “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama
  18. “It is very important to generate a good attitude, a good heart, as much as possible. From this, happiness in both the short term and the long term for both yourself and others will come.” – Dalai Lama
  19. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” – Dalai Lama
  20. “Everybody in the world is seeking happiness—and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn’t depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions.” – Dale Carnegie
  21. “Happiness is determined by factors like your health, your family relationships and friendships, and above all by feeling that you are in control of how you spend your time.” – Daniel Kahneman
  22. “Happiness consists not of having, but of being; not of possessing, but of enjoying. It is a warm glow of the heart at peace with itself. A martyr at the stake may have happiness that a king on his throne might envy. Man is the creator of his own happiness. It is the aroma of life, lived in harmony with high ideals. For what a man has he may be dependent upon others; what he is rests with him alone.” – David O. McKay
  23. “No one can grant you happiness. Happiness is a choice we all have the power to make.” – Dean Koontz
  24. “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss
  25. “Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it, you must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it. If you don’t, you will leak away your innate contentment. It’s easy enough to pray when you’re in distress but continuing to pray even when your crisis has passed is like a sealing process, helping your soul hold tight to its good attainments.” – Elizabeth Gilbert
  26. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
  27. “There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” – Epictetus
  28. “Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention.” – Greg Anderson
  29. “I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.” – Groucho Marx
  30. “Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
  31. “Happiness does not come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller
  32. “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” – Helen Keller
  33. “Happiness is like a butterfly; the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.” – Henry David Thoreau
  34. “A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.” – Hugh Downs
  35. “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance. The wise grows it under his feet.” – James Oppenheim
  36. “I refuse to accept other people’s ideas of happiness for me. As if there’s a ‘one size fits all’ standard for happiness.” – Kanye West
  37. “Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness.” – Khalil Gibran
  38. “Love is too precious to be ashamed of.” – Laurell K. Hamilton
  39. “Life finds its purpose and fulfillment in the expansion of happiness.” – Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
  40. “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” – Mahatma Gandhi
  41. “Seven Deadly Sins”. Wealth without work. Pleasure without conscience. Science without humanity. Knowledge without character. Politics without principle. Commerce without morality. Worship without sacrifice.” – Mahatma Gandhi
  42. “Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust
  43. “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” – Marcus Aurelius
  44. “Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.” – Margaret Lee Runbeck
  45. “Happiness comes from the full understanding of your own being.” – Marina Abramovic
  46. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain
  47. “Happiness lies neither in vice nor in virtue; but in the manner we appreciate the one and the other, and the choice we make pursuant to our individual organization.” – Marquis de Sade
  48. “I’ve learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends on our disposition and not on our circumstances.” – Martha Washington
  49. “Time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time.” – Marthe Troly-Curtin
  50. “My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.” – Michael J. Fox
  51. “Live life as though nobody is watching, and express yourself as though everyone is listening.” – Nelson Mandela
  52. “Happiness makes up in height for what it lacks in length.” – Robert Frost
  53. “True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient, for he that is so wants nothing. The greatest blessings of mankind are within us and within our reach. A wise man is content with his lot, whatever it may be, without wishing for what he has not.” – Seneca the Younger
  54. “Your life begins to change the day you take responsibility for it.” – Steve Maraboli
  55. “Happiness is very simple and minimal.” – Tablo
  56. “Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits.” – Thomas Jefferson
  57. “Happiness doesn’t depend on how much you have to enjoy, but how much you enjoy what you have.” – Tom Wilson

Be happy and whole in your hearts and remember to be kind to one another.

Love J.J.