Yesterday was a bit of a whirlwind. A lot of sad news and chaos, only to amount in a hectic flight plan and phone calls to our loved ones.
Which got me thinking…
How do we cherish our moments with our loved ones?
How do we consciously make an effort each day to show the ones we care about how much we appreciate and love them?
Truthfully, I’m guilty of not doing this enough. Honestly I think we all are.
In light of stressful events and chaotic moments, the beauty of it is that we come to appreciate those we love and focus more of our energy on moments that matter.
Here are five ways you can cherish your loved ones:
1. Call Them
Pick up your phone and dial the number of someone you’ve been meaning to call but haven’t made the time to.
It’s not everyday we interact with those we love the most. Thankfully for social media, we get a small glimpse into the lives of people who have grown apart through physical distance. However a “like” or a “comment” on their most recent photo or post doesn’t cut it.
Take the time to sit down and have a genuine conversation with someone over the phone. Carve out a time of day when you know you’ll be free to dial their number and ask how they’ve been, what they’ve been up to, and let them know how much you appreciate them. It can either take you 10 minutes or 3 hours. Either way, catching up through a call can make an entire difference to someone you’ve been thinking about.
2. Take Them to Lunch
If you have more time to spare than 10 minutes, think about taking someone out to lunch. A lunch break can be extremely intimate and very helpful when missing time or space of another person. At lunch, you have the opportunity to engage presently with someone through sound of voice, eye contact, physical touch, and even taste from your meal! Lunch isn’t meant to be a long affair, although it can be if you prefer, but a quick moment out of your day to catch up with someone and show them how much you appreciate them.
3. Write Them a Letter
Email and digital communication is wonderful these days, but there’s nothing that touches the heart more than a hand written letter. Instead of sending them a long written email or text message, try pulling out the old fashion pen and paper and start writing your thoughts down. When sending or handing the letter to that person, it will be beyond evident how much you care to take the time and do such an act for them. The beauty of a letter is that it’s not only the thoughts written down that will count, but also the physical act itself.
4. Gratitude Bomb Them
Have you been thinking about someone lately and wish you could tell them how much you cared but don’t know how? Try dropping a big ol’ gratitude bomb on their heads. This can be done in any form of communication you’d like, but the overall concept involves expressing all of your most sincere and grateful thoughts about someone and letting them know all at once. BOOM! You just dropped a bomb of major gratitude on them. To do this, compose a long and thoughtful message about why you care about them and why they’re an awesome human being. In it’s entirety, randomly send the message to them. Bam, you’ve just made someone’s day. Super easy, right?
5. Give Them a Hug
Hugs are not something I feel are not appreciated enough. In a hug, you can express to anyone how much you love and appreciate them. Yet, nowadays we see hugs as an act of “hello” and “goodbye”. Give that someone you’ve been meaning to tell how much you appreciate them the best freakin’ hug they’ve ever had.
When you hug someone, don’t just wrap your arms around them and do an awkward chest bump approach. Pull them in with sincerity and squeeze them with genuine care and keep a hold of them until you feel you’ve made your message very clear: that you love and appreciate them THAT MUCH.
When I hug others, I hope that they feel that I’ve enjoyed my time with them and that I appreciate them spending their time with me as well. Make sure that the next time you get to hug somebody you cherish, you leave them wishing they could spend the entire day receiving hugs from you.
I hope this charged a spark in you to get up and make an effort to express your love and appreciation to that special someone who you’ve been meaning to catch up with.