When You Love a Girl Who Loves the Ocean

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, never tell her where to go, rather, let her take you where she goes.

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When you love a girl who loves the ocean, you may never dream of catching her.

A girl who loves the ocean wishes not to stay docked at her port, but to let the winds guide her sail as she explores into the unknown.

A girl who loves the ocean will never let someone be her dock, but someone to be her second Captain; her right hand in command.

A girl who loves the ocean will never think first of the dangers of the unknown, or let the thoughts of unfamiliarity scare her away from diving into something she knows nothing of.

A girl who loves the ocean is happily curious, because she knows too much caution can make her unhappy. This girl, who loves the ocean, lets her toes dip where she feels it’s needed but lets her body drift wherever the waves will take her.

A girl who loves the ocean will stare deep into your soul. Like fresh rain on a dry spell, she’ll flow through your cracks inch by inch until your entire being is filled with her and you both quench for air as much as you soak in her hydrated healing.

If you ever want to be with a girl who loves the ocean, learn to watch, and listen, as much as you chase her away from the shore.

Be the beach she returns to and crashes on, be the grains of sand that melt into the ground when the waves return from the sea, be her light and day when she feels it’s time to step back or feels its time to move forward. Dance with her in synchrony when there’s a storm, a calm sunny day, pouring rain, or simply a day to smile for.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, you must love her in her entirety. Like an iceberg, you only see a small percentage on the surface but must dive deep with deliberation beneath her to uncover the kingdom left unspoken where 90% of her unfolds.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, remember to breath in her fresh scent that may tangle the ends of your hair and make you look beyond what you can see. When you love a girl who loves the ocean, treat her well, as she will be wild with nature yet soft as a ripple in a still pond.

When you love a girl who loves the ocean, never tell her where to go, rather, let her take you where she goes.

My Kilimanjaro Journey with Scoliosis

For years I haven’t had the fear of my scoliosis overtaking my physical endurance – until I booked my Kilimanjaro trek.

What most people don’t know about me is that I’ve struggled with scoliosis for 15 years.

For anyone who doesn’t know, scoliosis is an abnormal lateral curvature of the spine.

For 5 years, I needed to see a chiropractor every 2 weeks to adjust my spine alignment. If I missed a session, my body would be in so much pain it would become difficult to stand.

Growing up with a family restaurant, I had the opportunity to work as a waitress for many years. However, the constant stress of being on my feet and lifting multiple heavy plates was not always the physical demand my body could keep up with due to my physical condition.

When I started traveling, my initial fear was what would happen to me when I missed that first two-week session to re-align my spine. I had booked a 35-day trip throughout Southern Africa where I would be camping whilst traveling on rough overland roads and there would certainly be no chance to see a chiropractor.

Sure enough, exactly two weeks from my last session and the pain hit me. Luckily I was traveling with my now-boyfriend and had enough to keep me preoccupied to ignore the pain.

Overtime, my condition got better and I stopped going to my chiropractor appointments.

For years, I haven’t had the fear of my scoliosis overtaking my physical endurance until I booked my Kilimanjaro trek. I knew that I would be on my feet for 5-8 hours each day, carrying a backpack of minimum 5lbs. (That may not seem like much, but to me it sounded terrifying.)

At 14 years old, I had to stop wearing backpacks due to the stress weighing down on my shoulders and ultimately the scoliosis in my lower back. For the past 10 years I’ve only worn purses or side-bags to reduce the stress and so I can shift the weight from one shoulder to the other if I started to feel pain.

In my heart, the climb of Africa’s highest mountain was not the most difficult part, but carrying my own backpack for the entire way up.

Overall, I thankfully had no pain with my scoliosis throughout the entire trek – which I credit to having a great backpack with the proper weight support.

Although I didn’t reach the peak of Kilimanjaro, the journey of overcoming my physical disability and truly feeling that from this experience I can achieve anything means more to me than anyone can know. ❤️

Love J.J.

5 Ways to Cherish Your Loved Ones

In light of stressful events and chaotic moments, the beauty of it is that we come to appreciate those we love and focus more of our energy on moments that matter.

Yesterday was a bit of a whirlwind. A lot of sad news and chaos, only to amount in a hectic flight plan and phone calls to our loved ones.

Which got me thinking…

How do we cherish our moments with our loved ones?

How do we consciously make an effort each day to show the ones we care about how much we appreciate and love them?

Truthfully, I’m guilty of not doing this enough. Honestly I think we all are.

In light of stressful events and chaotic moments, the beauty of it is that we come to appreciate those we love and focus more of our energy on moments that matter.

Here are five ways you can cherish your loved ones:

1. Call Them

Pick up your phone and dial the number of someone you’ve been meaning to call but haven’t made the time to.

It’s not everyday we interact with those we love the most. Thankfully for social media, we get a small glimpse into the lives of people who have grown apart through physical distance. However a “like” or a “comment” on their most recent photo or post doesn’t cut it.

Take the time to sit down and have a genuine conversation with someone over the phone. Carve out a time of day when you know you’ll be free to dial their number and ask how they’ve been, what they’ve been up to, and let them know how much you appreciate them. It can either take you 10 minutes or 3 hours. Either way, catching up through a call can make an entire difference to someone you’ve been thinking about.

2. Take Them to Lunch

If you have more time to spare than 10 minutes, think about taking someone out to lunch. A lunch break can be extremely intimate and very helpful when missing time or space of another person. At lunch, you have the opportunity to engage presently with someone through sound of voice, eye contact, physical touch, and even taste from your meal! Lunch isn’t meant to be a long affair, although it can be if you prefer, but a quick moment out of your day to catch up with someone and show them how much you appreciate them.

3. Write Them a Letter

Email and digital communication is wonderful these days, but there’s nothing that touches the heart more than a hand written letter. Instead of sending them a long written email or text message, try pulling out the old fashion pen and paper and start writing your thoughts down. When sending or handing the letter to that person, it will be beyond evident how much you care to take the time and do such an act for them. The beauty of a letter is that it’s not only the thoughts written down that will count, but also the physical act itself.

4. Gratitude Bomb Them

Have you been thinking about someone lately and wish you could tell them how much you cared but don’t know how? Try dropping a big ol’ gratitude bomb on their heads. This can be done in any form of communication you’d like, but the overall concept involves expressing all of your most sincere and grateful thoughts about someone and letting them know all at once. BOOM! You just dropped a bomb of major gratitude on them. To do this, compose a long and thoughtful message about why you care about them and why they’re an awesome human being. In it’s entirety, randomly send the message to them. Bam, you’ve just made someone’s day. Super easy, right?

5. Give Them a Hug

Hugs are not something I feel are not appreciated enough. In a hug, you can express to anyone how much you love and appreciate them. Yet, nowadays we see hugs as an act of “hello” and “goodbye”. Give that someone you’ve been meaning to tell how much you appreciate them the best freakin’ hug they’ve ever had.

When you hug someone, don’t just wrap your arms around them and do an awkward chest bump approach. Pull them in with sincerity and squeeze them with genuine care and keep a hold of them until you feel you’ve made your message very clear: that you love and appreciate them THAT MUCH.

When I hug others, I hope that they feel that I’ve enjoyed my time with them and that I appreciate them spending their time with me as well. Make sure that the next time you get to hug somebody you cherish, you leave them wishing they could spend the entire day receiving hugs from you.

I hope this charged a spark in you to get up and make an effort to express your love and appreciation to that special someone who you’ve been meaning to catch up with.

Love J.J.

Home

A home is meant to be a place of familiarity, but it is wander and exploration which define a home when you walk through the doors after a glorious adventure.

How else do you come home, if you have not traveled?

How else would you return, if you’ve never left.

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A home is meant to be a place of familiarity, but it is wander and exploration which define a home when you walk through the doors after a glorious adventure.

Home is not a prison. Home is meant to be a nest you return to after you’ve flown off to different parts of the world. ✈️

Love J.J.

[Photos taken at Ueno Park in Tokyo, Japan]

LOVE is Always the Answer

If there’s ever a time in your life which you feel stuck, down, confused, disoriented, or at a lost for words – think about “love” and how you can respond to your situation in that one simple act.

Like most people, I often face many questions in life which I feel I cannot answer.

What college should I go?

What restaurant should I eat?

How should I respond to this person?

Why is this happening to me?

Questions that leave us speechless and incomprehensible can sometimes be the greatest gifts we receive – it’s through these questions which we truly find ourselves through one simple word: “LOVE”.

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If you’re ever faced with a situation where you simply cannot find the answer, always remember that the answer is “LOVE”.

What college do I go to? The one which I genuinely love the most.

What restaurant should I eat? The one whose food I love the most.

How should I respond to this person? With love and compassion as how I would like to be treated.

Why is this happening to me? Although I cannot control certain things in life, I will respond to the world with love and focus my attention on the positive and good things that come towards me.

The answer is simple my friends, LOVE.

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If there’s ever a time in your life which you feel stuck, down, confused, disoriented, or at a lost for words – think about “love” and how you can respond to your situation in that one simple act.

Love J.J.

[Photos taken at Asakusa Sensoji Temple in Tokyo, Japan.]

Sunrise Walks in Tokyo

Choosing to explore the city before the town wakes is one of the most delightful experiences a traveler can obtain.

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There’s a reason why birds sing in the morning.

It’s not just because the air is cooler and sound travels further.

It’s because there’s a glorious essence that comes with rising with the sun.

As someone who’s not an early riser, this is a little unbelievable to say…

Choosing to explore the city before the town wakes is one of the most delightful experiences a traveler can obtain.

The tranquility of sunrise and freshness of morning air is a sensation one can simply not explain.

Start your day before the sun rises, and I assure you, you’ll have the world to yourself.

Love J.J.

Adventures Don’t Always Go According to Plan

Sometimes when we lose sight of what path we’re suppose to keep, we find new paths to venture on.

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Adventures don’t always go according to plan.

Day 2 in Tokyo, Japan and our tracks are already rearing off course.

In my mind, that’s how it should be.

Sometimes when we lose sight of what path we’re suppose to keep, we find new paths to venture on.

A failure to enter a 3AM fish market only led to dining in a famous sushi shop for breakfast, getting lost in a sea of stationary, shopping till I dropped (literally) in Ginza, and discovering a local brewed coffee house who’s artistry of caffeine has completely changed by view of coffee culture.

Sometimes when adventures don’t go according to plan, you find better ones along the way.

That’s fine by me. ♥

Love J.J.